Hurdles come not to stop U , but to make u stronger!!!

Hi Folks back after a long long time.

for ppl who understand tamizh"Tholviyum konjam vennum adi, vetri ku athuvey eni adi"
Translated roughly

"U have to lose sometimes, it's the stepping stone for success"

These lines are from a very good song n which is very close to my heart, to which i listen when im feeling emotionally very low n sad :)

A very meaningful n powerful line i should say!!!!

Winning, i should say is a DISEASE. Once u start winning u tend to become arrogant n ignorant. Though it mite not apply to everyone but sure does apply for 80% of human beings.

Thats y god created something called LOSING! Its to always to make u feel "DNT WORRY LIFE CAN FLIP EITHER SIDE!"

Sometimes u lose due to ur own mistake and sometimes u lose due to others mistake !!!

Sometimes u put so much efforts into something when its in the reach of ur hands u c it being grabbed by someone or snatched by someone for some totally weird and unacceptable reasons.
u tend to get low, so low tat u mite lose sleep. Ur Brain will say "common buddy it happens".
But u know, its very difficult to convince ur heart and its very difficult to convince when it loses something for which ur not responsible for :)

I have passed thro such a exp twice in my life so far. I had something, which is very very close to my heart, in the reach of my hand but i was hopelessy made to fail due to someone's else mistake !!!! I c it's being grabbed away from me but im helpless! i shout for help but i end up cin that im still helpless.

During Bad times, i remind myself of those lines from the song. Im losing coz im going to win something g8.
i rem'ber a proverb or a line, i should say, im not sure.

"I may have lost the war but not the battle"
(Sorry folks i mite have interchanged war n battle im not sure. the line s something like this :D )

Sometimes accept defeat but make sure u use it optimistically !! Improve and increase ur hardwork !!! Use it to ignite the fire in u to acheive more. Use it to make sure tat u have learnt from ur mistakes!!

Life itself is a big experience!! Every moment passed is past !! Cherish it! Live it !! i saw a movie sterday, JAB WE MET, a hindi movie. Started off differently and i hpnd to find some very very good dialogs in it!
Heroine says " no one knows wat is there for us tom, Live now. Live the way u like it to.Dnt complain later tat u didnt enjoy life! so Live now n live it to the max".

Im planning to do the same ! Everythin will pass. Time is the best medicine. Sometimes u miss the bus due to ur mistake and sometimes due to someone else! but god has created the beautiful nature and he makes sure everyone gets wat they deserve !

Its all written so dnt worry u too got ur time !!

Life is a wheel n it will rotate. Good times will come just wait for the it !!!

After all, every dog has its Day !!

Cheers :)

Attention Please!! They are also humans!!!!

Its been a long long time since i blogged .. so back at the job again .. :) ... This time im here to voice for some people who needs real attention, care and moreover philanthropist have to realize that these people also belong to human race.

Im talking abt eunuch (sorry im not sure if this is the rite word to use or its a gross word , if its wrong please do correct me) ..

Recently i saw some eunuch, doing prostitution, waiting on the main road in chennai for customers. Though i was shocked to see such a scene in the middle of a main road in chennai but still the other way i felt bad for them. Y r they getting into something like this ?

No job .. no recognition, to sound even more pathetic they dnt have a voter card, ration card (how do i know? they had actually voiced thier concerns in the news recently)

Have u ever noticed in any appln like in jobs or passport appln. they ask for gender as either male or female. What abt these ppl ?? If the goverment itself doesnt recognize them who else will ?? being born like that is not their mistake ...

We voice for quota for all sort of ppl .. y dnt we voice to ensure atleast minimum amt of respect to these ppl ?? basic education atleast ???

I accept, somtimes even i feel digusted n the way they act, like clapping their hands n a very peculiar way . Sometimes i do feel that they use it as an advantage to beg.

But in the other way wat else can they do ? no ration card , no voter card no job no education .. i guess they are pushed to beg or prostitution by none other than us.. society ... In email id registration itself they ask for male , female or --- (which in a way is very hurting , gov should come up with some legal way of calling them else ppl call them in way which is very hurting sometimes...)

I saw one such person n beach .. i guess that person was actually waiting for a friend .. there turned a gang of guys who started shouting so loud n weird, which obv everyone knew that they are pulling this persons leg... y publically ??? i felt really bad .. they are also human with heart n feelings n it .. Please do not disturb them if u cant help them ...

n i would sincerely request that gov and philanthropy org takes some steps for these ppl to ensure them min amt of education, ration card ,voter card and legal way of representing their gender in appln forms and in public.

I know i cant change the world but i hope this changes a few of them.. coz drops make ocean.

Even God makes mistake!!!

Even god makes mistake .. the picture mite give u a clear idea ..

Handicap a word which kills ppl by itself ... i prefer calling them "differently abled" rather than "disabled".... they are bit different ... tats it .. the confidence those ppl have within themselves im sure we dnt have even 1% of that ..

i got a friend who is affected due to polio ... but he s damn cool n sings very well.. he even has published his own album recently ... cool na ?? :) ..

One day i was walking in the morning and i saw a beautiful lady b4 me (how could i saw she s beautiful b4 i saw her face .. tat comes with exp u c :D ) ... i some how managed to over take her n i saw her having earing machine n both her ears ... i was standing besides the temple n i saw god n said " some times u also make mistake"

My mom tells me " vinai vithaithavan vinai arupan" .. how much ever birth u take u will have to suffer ur sins .. but isnt forgiving other ppl thought to us by our parents ? when a human being like us forgives others, gods are divine and im sure they would forgive ... but then y r those ppl born different from us ?? im not tryin to emphaize tat they got somethin bad .. im tryin to tell tat y r not like us ????

i c my dad struggling to walk ..sometimes it kills me ...but my dad with all his self confidence learnt to walk n do things with one hand ... (he got paralytic attack n 1990) .. he puts coffee himself ... except for some rare things most of hte work he does it n his own ...he even manages without my mom for a day or two .. hats of to him :) ...

In the beach i saw lady n kid sitting besides her ... the lady was beautiful so i was admiring her beauty n then i sw her kid n really felt bad abt wat i did coz the kid was mentally not fit ... she was innocently askin her mom some questions .. n her mom was calmly answering her ... think abt that mother plight ... mother will never feel pain bringing up her kid but still ... we know growing up a normal kid s very difficult .. she would really have tough time na ?? i did my part .. i prayed god immediately for tat lady n that small cute kid for their wellness .. the max i could do .. :) ...

I have seen some blind ppl n the beach .. they all hold their hands n walk together while begging ... no one leaves the other .. they dnt think abt cheating the other .. thats wat make them unique :) ... they are unique in a sense ... much differnt from us .. ya they are differently abled ...

Sometimes god is cruel ... but all s done for some purpose .. may be they get to find some real love from human beings which we tend to lack coz we are not innocent .. we show our cunningness somewhere .. n as newton law states " every reaction has equal n opposite reaction" so for wat actions we show .. the reaction s wat we get .. but they are innocent ... n they get innocence n warmness from ppl near them :) ..

So hats off to all the ppl who shows us some path .. we got lot to learn from them ... with eyes closed they teach us somethin which with eyes open we lack to learn :) ... unique :) ....

Is it Worth being one ???

hi Folks ... Back after really long long time ... The topic is bit strange .. but i find it still very senstive and point to be dicussed... A feeling true from heart ... Is it worth being a virgin before marriage ???

Disclaimer : For ppl who consider this not fitting them, please ignore as i dnt want to hurt any personal sentiments.Its just a pure opinion from my heart and has nothin to do to hurt others.

I hpnd to talk to some females online who hpnd to b a perfect bitch.They are married but still sleeping with folks they meet in office, in pubs and there is one female who is a teenager and happens to sleep any third guy she meets.. that female says (who says she s from chennai) has many friends whom she know happens to be sleeping with guys since college days ... Now at this point i was wondering if this s the situtation at 2007, wat will be the situation @ 3 - 4 yrs from now ? how will the generation b which comes next to me ? Now if the females are losing there virginity at 18 , wat should i expect from a girl who becomes my wife..

As kushboo said "educated fellows should not expect their wife to be virgin" tat moment even i had some irritating opinion abt kushboo .comments . but now after meeting these few ladies n nline like this, i really consider a change of my opinion and i think we should go lite with this .. Please im not sayin all girls or ladies like this , Im just tryin to point out that this type of cases are GROWING AT ALARMING LEVELS ..

Now my point is till date im a boy who has been thinkin abt career and have felt tat having a gf itself doesnt fits my family .. having sex b4 marriage s sin acording to me . but is it worth it ?? At the current rate, will i end up in bed being virgin and other person having experienced ... end of day i happened to become a dumb a** ..

Few of my friends have had sex , and they are quite cool abt it .. Wnt their heart kill them of guilt, when they get married ?? How will u feel if ur wife has slept with some one ?

Once i was askin my friend " is it worth being a virgin" he said " every one s a virgin due to circumstances" tats true in fact .. had someone got an oppurtunity no one would be perfect .

but being perfect is due to personal char which says "this s wrong dnt go to tat place" so u kindah avoid cin such things which is wat keeps u better and single.

i tell my friends " we have remained this way so long lets not take a chance for another 2 yrs b4 we get married" For me my heart will kill me if i do such a thing.... i cant face my parents and most imp i cant face god to whom i have to answer my sins :) .... So lets c future will show . I dnt bother if its worth or not . I have been a virgin and will be a virgin till marriage ... (dnt ask me wen s my marriage :D tat god knows :D hope he doesnt keeps me waiting too long n tat aspect ;) )

I will tell u one single reason y we need to be virgin . " Cz we need to b differnt from a 5 sense creature" . dog has sex with every female dog its sees and we are humans and have 6 senses which tells us which s good and bad. So atleast for the sake of differentiating ourself from a dog , It's better we stick to our culture :) ..

One liners ....

Hi Folks ...

Back after loooooooongggg time i guess ... last one was somewhere in November 2006 .... let me start my new year with some good one liners which happens my own thoughts (as far as possible :) )...

1 . Every Step leads to success.Half way, loser's turn back,While Winner's move forward!!!

2. Valentines day without a Valentine , Continues. .... :)

3. Powered by salary, Driven by bills :)

4. Lots Dream , some acheive ...Im will b among the few!!!

5. Beware , my charm can be contagious ... :)

6. Opportunities keep KNOCKING … problem is we don’t to GRAB it !!

7.Every Human has two faces. Friends only c ur Positive , Enemies only c ur Negative,N those

who C BOTH but still continues to b ur FRIEND , r UR BEST FRIENDS !!!

8. When u feel u cant WIN , Dont worry even the other is feeling SO ...

9. Girls friends are expensive, dont worry wives aren't better either :D

10. When boredom kills u , JUST SLEEP :)

11 . I have a dream, a dream of dreaming BIG !!! ( this one alone i myself feel tat i have read it somewhere ..not sure though :) )

The one's below are not my own , i hpnd to read n some t shirts .. :)

A car had a sticker mentioned as

1. Ya , It's my DAD's road

2. 99% of the girls n this world are beautiful , rest 1% is in my college.

3. Preserve water , Drink BEER :D (this one s cool rite ;) )

4. My dad is my ATM.

I could only think of these one liners at the moment .... will blog soon as soon i find something interesting to rite :) ... bye folks have a nice day ahead ....

All i want is !!!

From my childhood all i have aimed s more than wat i can at tat age but stil i have always dreamt and till date may b i couldnt acheive it immediately but i have achieved it at some point of time .... merely by gods grace and parents blessings and my efforts !!!

When i was 9 , i wanted a shoe which had lite display at its bottom .. this s the thing which i could never fulfil n my life as that time my family situation was not good ...

when i was 17 i wanted a TVS50 that too second hand (mind it not even a bike :D ) ... my dad asked me "i will pay for the bike how come will u petrol it ?? " :D i got wat my dad was abt to tell me ... i dropped the idea ... but i made sure im gona buy the best thing in market when i get a job..so once i got a job n campus .. i got a puslar 150cc all out of my own money ... i paid the EMI for 2 yrs ..but i got the best which was at tat time the market .. a thing for which i worked hard for 6 yrs :) ...

during my college days i wanted to wear all the branded shirts n the market .... i have seen my friends wearing all the best things n market .. i used to wear the cheapest ones .... but still i hve never taken it as my negative point ... never cursed my dad much tat he didnt earn much .. all i dreamed was a life of my own ...a job which gave me enough money to fulfill my dreams and desires .. i fulfilled that ..though not n my teenage .. but still age s at ur heart ... :D ... first thing after i got a job i got all the branded shirts pants shoes slippers ... wore them :) a kind of idiotic satisfcation it gives ... god ...not even a gf mite give ya :) ..

always i have wanted a good looking girl friend :D i got a good nostalgic incident n college days to certify this :D ... but i never got ... and i never wished tat i get one in reality ... i feared tat my dreams mite get missed ... girls drags u away from the point :) .... i dnt know how far s this s true .. but still i have seen some being successful inspite of having gf and some falling low due to girls ...so i think god has kept me n the safer side :) .....

now all i want s a BENZ and house in chennai :) ..... a dream house of which i have dreamt always near the beach ... im not sure how far im gona succeed but dreaming s not wrong ... but dream without actions s a sin as kalam says :) ... my dreams are moving with my actions ... one day im sure i will make my parents proud when they c my name flashing n new paper all n rite terms :) .... a dream which always my mom wanted to c ... she always wished tat my name would come n good ways n paper ..... but i could never do tat .. but still mom never complained ...she always tells me "wat ever ur vicky ..ur a nice son of mine and im really proud tat .. y do u bother abt these things" :) ... as the tamizh proverb says "kaagaiku than kunju pon kunju :)" ... (for non tamizh ppl it means "for the crow its baby s the best n the world ") ... ritely said :) ....

let me hope ....All i want is my dreams to b fulfilled .... and a day will rise in my name :) ..

Sometime's in life!!!

hi folks .. back after a really long long time ... this time im not so happy n a mood to rite somethin really fun ...

last week i lost something for which i have worked hard for 8 years ..since my 10th std ....

not a big deal for some ..a big dream for me ... to go places .... out of india ...a dream of my dad mom and my sister's ... which remains unfulfilled till date ....

last week i lost a chance to go US which i thought i mite get ... no issues one of my good pal s goin ..good for him ..but still the feelin of u lost it doesnt keeps quite rite :) ....

A dream which i developed within myself when i was doin my 10th .... my dad had a passport ... i used to have a habit of goin over his things :D ... dad was and s my hero alwys ... a g8 person to b with and mom i got no words for her .. such a lovin mom i got .. i bet u c her u will feel jealous :D ... many a times she has cried just cin me crying :D .. Love u mom and dad (appa and amma... tamizh to b strict else my dad scolds me :D still i listen to his words .. not out of fear ..out of respect .. i used to really curse him durin my younger days ... but now i realize how true he was n lot of things:D ) .. ok comin back to the main issue ... i made fun of him cin the passport has he was never out of india ... he just got bit sad and told me "Vicky i wanted to go somewhere n the world.... out of india and could never make it ... wish u go and c places and c things which remained a dream for me " ... i never cn my dad so serious ... but tat incident struck like a rod nside my heart tat i started workin for it .. my studies got serious ... i started takin life more seriously ... from 10th i have been workin for it ... my dad and mom used to tell me "nly if u study u can go foreign ..c places .. have a nice life " ....

When i was sure tat i will get a chance to go onsite ... i lost it for some reasons ... :) ... mind says its fine vickram let it go ..god will show u a better way ... but heart doesnt listen ....... wat to do :( ..

morning i called up my mom and dad to tell them wat hpn ... mom being a sweet person and being very orthodox ran to the most trustworthy astrologer with my horoscope to chk out my bavishiya :) ... she s satified with wat the fellow told .... and she tried hard to console me ... end of the conversation she did bring a smile back n my face :) .... after all my mom s the sweet person to b with :) thanks mom once again :) ... lets c ... god has somethin for me .. i have never got wat i want so easily but end of the day i have alwys won :) ....so let me keep my fingers crossed and wait for the moment :D ..