Marriage! An Agreement .. not an unification!!!!

Back after 8 days gap :) ... I know this topic is totally irrelevant to me .. im 23 years old .. but still.. something i have heard, seen ...with that idea in my mind, im just scribbling some of my thoughts ...

Marriage, Made in Heaven but fate s decided in EARTH rite:)

I consider it as an Agreement Between two Minds telling each other that "Thy so shall adjust and will live with u under all circumstances" ..rather than an unification of two hearts ...

Unification of hearts ..just a romantic phrase coined by movies :) ...

If its unification of two hearts .. then Letters Starting with "DEAR" b4 Marraige wont change to "HI" post marriage ... Phone calls ending with "Love u" wont change to "Bye" post marriage coz Hearts never Change but Mind Set Changes ...

Shopping every week turns to once in a month .. every weekend outings change to once in a while ...

Y does this happens ???

TAKE IT FOR GRANTED .. he/she takes other for granted .. thats were the problem starts ....

Before Marriage both of them TALK to each other for HOURS but pity them, to impress each other... both act ..atleast ADJUST each other to the most, to keep things happier..

Post Marriage .. latter thinks former will adjust as he/she did b4 marriage ...when things dont go as expected .. things get worse .. once things get worse ..

Next time .. the first fight adds fuel and imaginations to both and with ego's pouring in ... things burst ...

Where did all the prob start ?? B4 marriage .. where both f them ACT to impress each other ...

Y Marriage is done if both f them dont fit n each other completely ???

Thats where both of them agree to a point saying " Even though we are not 100% similar in thoughts .. we will adjust with each other and live a happy life" ...

My dad and mom would be a best example here !!!

I have seen small fights between my mom and dad ... it always happens ..else wat family it is .. :)

My dad, who is suffering from apoplexy cant do things on his own .. he needs my mom help even to trivial things... but still they fight :) ... My mom doesnt talk to my dad after a fight .. nite comes and my mom keeps the dinner plate and slowly comes to my side and says "ask ur dad to go and eat" :) .. and as my mom doesnt take FOOD .. my dad comes to me and tell "ur mom is hungry ask to her eat " .. sweet dad and mom ...

Wat an adjustment ... they stand by the agreement of marriage ... Inspite of difference in thinking they live together .. me n my sisters have grown as responsible and good citizens !!! coz of them !!! salute to u dad and mom ...

If Marriage was UNIFICATION of HEART .. Fights would have never come ..

Its a agreement ... and im sure above example must have made it clear and im sure lots will accept its true, as that is wat s happening in most of our houses and trust me i didnt pick it up from any MEGA serial or novel :) ...


Think from ur MIND always .. coz Hearts Deceive, add sentiments ..adds imagination ...

So Mantra for Happy Life : Adjust with each other .. no one is perfect !!!!